It’s really great that you’re thinking of quitting smoking. It doesn’t matter if you’re here on your own accord, or whether someone who loves you has asked you to give the issue some thought.
All you’ve got to do is read and do a bit of thinking.
Ask a smoker why they smoke, and very few will openly admit they’re addicted to it as the primary reason. Probe a little deeper and the common response is they smoke because they like it.
It’s amazing how many smokers won’t even make the effort to find out more about it if they like it so much. After all, they would spend time to research and learn about other things they like (from sports teams and hobbies, to new purchases, what to eat and where to go on vacation), so why not for smoking, something where a lot of time and money is spent?
Perhaps it’s because they’re not interested in it, or more accurately, probably because they don’t want to know about what they’ll find out if they open their eyes to look.
Let’s face it, every smoker knows that smoking is bad for them. Most know that it’s very bad for them. Some know it’s fatally bad for them. But they continue to smoke because they’re mentally and physically addicted, and don’t need to be further reminded or convinced about how it’s killing them.
By learning more about smoking, it’s only going to make them feel worse about their habit or drive them deeper into denial, so what’s the point of reading about the latest discoveries on how smoking is actually even worse than previously thought. None. Unless you’re thinking of quitting, or trying to figure out how to ask your loved one to give up for good.
So, why should you quit smoking?
Actually, the question you should be asking is ‘How is Smoking Killing Me, Causing Me all Sorts of Health, Financial, Social and other Problems, and Why I Urgently Need to Stop It As Soon As Possible’.
Can you see the huge difference between the meaning and impact of these two questions?
If you casually ask whether you ‘should’ stop smoking, it downplays the importance of quitting and allows you to come up with a list of reasons to justify why you shouldn’t.
On the other hand, by asking why you ‘need’ to ‘urgently’ give it up forever, you’ll be instantly focused on the detrimental effects of smoking and looking answers on how to quit, instead of toying with the wrong issue of whether you should or shouldn’t quit.
Words are extremely powerful in influencing our psyche, and the way you ask a question or frame a problem in your mind is directly linked to how you seek an answer for it.
So, think carefully and clearly. The way you think about stopping smoking has a significant effect on your understanding of what’s involved, your urgency to find a solution, and whether you’ll manage to quit successfully.
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